The Personal Side

The Personal Side of the Ventures Scholar
Being a high school student is not all about grades and test scores. There is a personal side and we want to help you make the right personal decisions. This section provides you with links to Web sites that will offer you information about the following topics:

ALCOHOL AND DRUGS

A Guide for Teens - Helping Your Friends
Does your friend have an alcohol or other drug problem? What can you do to help?

Read more:
http://ncadi.samhsa.gov/govpubs/PHD688/


Issues Related to Alcohol and Other Drugs
Do you know someone who is drinking too much? Are you drinking too much? This site provides information about the effects of alcohol and drugs and suggestions to help those who might have a drinking or drug problem.

Read more:
http://www.stmarys-ca.edu/prospective/undergraduate_admissions/
student_life_and_services/student_support/counseling_center/
alcohol.html


Dealing with Addiction
The difference between substance abuse and addiction is very slight. Addiction begins as abuse, or using a substance like marijuana or cocaine.

Read more:
http://kidshealth.org/teen/drug_alcohol/getting_help/addictions.html


3,000,000 Young People Need Help With Alcohol Problems
Welcome to the Alcohol Cost Calculator for Kids, developed by Ensuring Solutions to Alcohol Problems. This easy-to-use tool is designed to help teachers, parents, lawmakers and child advocates calculate the toll serious alcohol problems are taking on their community.

Read more:

http://www.alcoholcostcalculator.org/kids/


Alcohol Use Among Girls
According to SAMHSA’s National Household Survey on Drug Abuse (NHSDA), male and female rates of alcohol use among 12- to 17-year-olds were similar in the early 1990’s for the first time.1 Girls are beginning to drink at younger ages than ever before. In the 1960’s, 7 percent of new female users of alcohol were ages 10 to 14, but by the early 1990’s, that figure had risen to 31 percent.2

Read more:
http://www.health.org/govpubs/rpo993/


Organizations, Articles and More
This site has a wealth of helpful information about how to help those with alcohol and drug problems.

Read more:
http://www.focusas.com/Alcohol.html

ANXIETY

Most of us experience some level of uneasiness or tension before and/or during a test. A small amount of tension or stress is expected. Sometimes that nervousness works in our favor, motivating us. However, in larger amounts that tension can interfere or even impair our capacity to think, plan, and perform on tests. The following information will help you to cope and overcome test anxiety.

Read more:
http://success.oregonstate.edu/study/tests.cfm
http://www.ubishops.ca/ccc/div/soc/psy/cajolet/reducing_anxiety.htm
http://www.dartmouth.edu/~acskills/success/stress.html


ASSERTIVENESS

Assertive Communication
Do you have trouble saying no, even when you really should? Do you feel like people walk all over you? Do you have trouble keeping your temper under control? If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you might find it really helpful to learn about assertive communication.

Read more:

http://www.uiowa.edu/~ucs/asertcom.html


Assertiveness
Do you often find that others coerce you into thinking their way? Is it difficult for you to express your positive or negative feelings openly and honestly? Do you sometimes lose control and become angry at others who don't warrant it? A "yes" answer to any of the above questions may be an expression of a common problem known as "lack of assertiveness."

Read more:
http://www.couns.uiuc.edu/Brochures/assertiv.htm
Assertive Communication
Infants and young children have direct ways of making their needs and desires known! Without being conditioned or taught what is "polite", they naturally, constantly ask for what they want - even though they aren't sure they will get it. However, as we grow older, we tend to adopt less direct styles of communicating. Messages we receive from society and significant others seem to discourage what is perceived as "making waves", which is generally nothing more than making our needs and feelings known - directly and respectfully.

Read more:

http://www.usu.edu/arc/idea_sheets/assertive.htm

Assertive Communication
Here are some tips on how to communicate more assertively with others.

Read more:
http://www.twu.edu/o-sl/counseling/SelfHelp011.html

CONFLICT

Conflict with Significant People in Your Life
As soon as you come into contact with other people, you begin to experience conflicts. This means that, if you work to decrease isolation from other people, you get some new problems as a result.

Read more:
http://mirecc.stanford.edu/content/ptsd/conflict_with_significants.htm


Conflict
Tools for Relationships. Handling Conflict. Content:. What is conflict

Read more:
http://www.coping.org/relations/conflict.htm


Fourteen Winning Strategies For Handling Conflict

How do you handle conflict? Ignore it? Get defensive? Blame it on someone or something else? There are better ways to handle conflict and criticism. Try following these tips.

Read more:
http://www.hodu.com/negotiation-skills.shtml

DIFFICULT PEOPLE

Dealing with Difficult People

How do you deal with difficult, irrational, or abusive people, especially those in positions of authority who have some degree of control over your life?

Read more:
http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2004/11/dealing-with-difficult-people/



Learning to Deal With Difficult People

If you have to work with difficult people every day, you probably dread going to work each morning. What's more, you might get so stressed that you can't concentrate on the job. Have you ever wondered why some people are difficult to work with?

Read more:

http://www.confidencecenter.com/art12.htm



How to Deal with Difficult Family
We choose our friends, or they choose us, but family is a hand-me-down. If we outgrow friendships, or choose to end them because they have turned toxic, even though the process is difficult, we close those doors and move on with our lives. However, how do we handle family members who are negative, critical, unfeeling and domineering? After all, for some of us this is the only family we have!

Read more:

http://www.turnonyourinnerlight.com/DifficultFamily.html


Practical Examples on How to Deal with Difficult People
Interesting information on how to deal with difficult people.

Read more:

http://www.dealing-with-difficult-people.com/practical_examples_on_how_to_d.html


EATING HABITS

Many teens feel pressured to lose weight and try different types of diets, but if you really need to lose weight, improving your eating habits and exercising will help you more than any diet. Keep reading to get the down-and-dirty basics on dieting.

From KidsHealth
http://kidshealth.org/teen/food_fitness/dieting/dieting.html
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/binge_eating.html

From healthfinder
http://www.healthfinder.gov/news/newsstory.asp?docID=515401

From Health Behavior News Service
http://www.hbns.org/news/extreme12-28-02.cfm


Disordered Eating and Eating Disorders
Eating disorders are mental disorders that can have serious physical complications. These disorders may make normal functioning difficult and can become chronic, crippling illnesses and in extreme cases require hospitalization. There are three main types of eating disorders: Anorexia, Bulimia, and Binge Eating. These are complex disorders focusing on issues of eating, body weight, and body shape. Disordered eating can lead to an eating disorder. It is important to identify eating habits and change them before they become severe.

Read more:
http://www.mirror-mirror.org/college.htm
http://www.campusblues.com/healthy_eating.asp
http://www.brewsterschools.org/BHSMain/GuidServ/Eating/Eating
%20Disorders.htm


FEAR OF FAILURE

Overcoming Failure - Failure Can Be Positive or Negative
Failure is a learning tool. Thomas Edison failed a thousand times before he invented the light bulb. Failure is trying to do things others have not considered. It is a temporary byproduct of creativity. It is challenging the learning process. It is experiential education at work. The real winners in life tolerate failure and the agony it produces. Success is achieved by those who are willing to take risk and lose.

Read more:
http://www.motivation-tools.com/elements/overcoming_failure.htm



Overcoming Failure - Failure Is Nothing to Fear
Failure can be a beautiful experience. Why? Because it provides us with an opportunity to develop courage. Or, as Confucius said, “Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” Anyone who has seen the movie Rocky can never forget the scene in which he continually rises after being knocked down in the ring over and over again. Bloodied and barely able to see, he continues to get up and stagger toward his opponent, while his manager shouts, “Rocky, stay down! Stay down!”

Read more:
http://www.personal-development.com/chuck/failure.htm


Ten Reasons Why People Fail
Why do people fail? Find out!

Read more:
http://www.goalsguy.com/Knowledge/t_07_whyfail.html


Knowing How To Overcome Failure Is Part Of Being Successful
Poem about overcoming failure!

Read more:

http://www.dwlz.com/Motivation/tips34.html

FRIENDSHIPS

Making and Keeping Friends
For some people making new friends comes easily. For others, it can be a difficult task. The development of a true friendship, whether it's with one person or many people, is a great feeling. Below are a few commonly asked questions that will help you establish the confidence to make new friendships or strengthen the ones you already have.

Read more:
http://www.teengrowth.com/index.cfm?action=info_article&ID_article=1342&category=friends&catdesc=Friends&subdesc=Friendship


12 Tips for Making and Keeping Friends
Helpful tips for making friends.

Read more:
http://www.crgs.org/bullies/bullies6.htm


Making And Keeping Friends - A Self-Help Guide
Making new friends can be exciting or intimidating, depending on your personality and your circumstances, but ultimately it is rewarding. To meet new people who might become your friends, you have to go to places where others are gathered. The hardest thing about going out and doing anything in the community is doing it for the first time. It's hard for everyone. Push through those hard feelings and go. Most of the time, you will be glad you did.

Read more:
http://www.mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/publications/allpubs/SMA-3716/default.asp




GENERAL HEALTH

Health Topics
Everyone has special health concerns based on gender, age, race, ethnic origin, or role in helping others care for their health. We've selected very specific information from our health library so it is easy to zero in on health topics of special interest to you. Just choose one of the special groups below to begin.

Read more:
http://healthfinder.gov/justforyou/


Student Health
Here's an Education Week page that takes a close look at the health issues facing students--and what schools are doing about them.

Read more:
http://www.edweek.org/context/topics/issuespage.cfm?id=117


Teen Health - Myth or Fact
The Just Think team put together this Myth vs. Fact sheet so you can see how much you do or don't know about issues affecting teen health and well-being.

Read more:
http://www.pbs.org/kcet/senioryear/reachout/myth.html


SHYNESS

Understanding Shyness
For some people, the problem of shyness may simply be having trouble thinking of things to say in social situations. For others, it may involve crippling physical manifestations of uneasiness. For most, shyness involves a combination of both symptoms to a greater or lesser degree. In any event, the effects of shyness can be devastating.

Read more:
http://members.aol.com/cybernettr/shyness.html


Shake Your Shyness
Shyness is feeling uncomfortable in social situations in ways that interfere with our ability to enjoy ourselves, to perform at the level we're capable of or that cause us to avoid social situations altogether.

Read more:
http://www.shakeyourshyness.com/
Steps to Overcoming Shyness
To overcome shyness, "say anything even if you make a fool out of yourself" is often suggested. I do not have a degree in psychology, but I think this step is impractical. By making a fool out of yourself, you're just becoming more aware of the judgmental world that you always feared.

Read more:
http://www.heartsandminds.org/self/shysteps.htm


Overcoming Shyness
Shyness can be debilitating and I know because I used to suffer from acute shyness which threatened to destroy my social life. It caused me a lot of pain and was holding me back until I began to start reading about the subject and thought about how to beat the problem.

Read more:
http://www.more-selfesteem.com/overcoming_shyness_tips.htm

SOCIAL PRESSURE

What is social pressure? That's a big question that many teens all over ask but never get an actual response to. Social Pressures are the combined pressures that are around you during everyday life such as Peer Pressure, Academic Pressures and Socioeconomic Pressure. These are the ones that teens are familiar with. You may think that you have complete control over these pressures but when a situation arise your ideas may not be as clear as they are at another time. Social Pressures can be confusing and stressful.

Read more:
http://www.smith.edu/ourhealthourfutures/socialpress.html


STRESS MANAGEMENT

Be a Real Survivor - Study Skills and Stress Management for High School Students
If you are like the majority of teens, your life is so hectic that you may wish you were stranded on a desert island, teamed with your fellow island dwellers while you strive to outlast them.

Read more:
http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0HUV/is_2_30/ai_79410059


Stress Management
During stressful situations our bodies tend to tense up and we rarely stop to think about that is happening inside of our bodies. Being stressed out leaves you in an unhealthy state of being.

Read more:
http://www.chemistrycoach.com/WRstress.htm#Stress%20Management

 

 

 
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